At least the physical ones. Emotionally I'm still adrift.
Those who've followed this blog know all about the gall bladder surgery from 2009. Well I took a close look at my belly the other day and was glad to see that the scar has healed pretty good (It's from 2 years ago.. I shouldn't be surprised).
BTW, that picture up above is a first. It's the first RL photo of me to appear on this blog. (The JCGoneWild blog had pix of me that weren't identified as such.. heh ;)) You can still subscribe to that blog if you ask me nicely. (I took it private in order to make it naughtier)
But while the physical scars from a couple years ago are almost gone the emotional scars from being dumped in November haven't. (And as an aside.. where did my abs go and where did this belly fur come from?)
Combined with other shifts in my life.. needing to move.. a fast burn of all the money I have saved up.. learning my step mom has ALS.. and my never ending quest for a decent job.. I think I'm doing good to be doing as well as I am. But this level of chaos is taxing.
That's why I thought I'd write this post.. to ask for advice.
I'm curious how others have dealt with major upheavals in their lives? What kept them grounded? Kept them focused?
And what I really got to know: Is there any way to mend a broken heart?
Please share either as a comment, a post on your own blog, or a email. (If you don't want your comments publicly shared please mention that)
Thanks
JC
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Tuesday, May 31, 2011
The scars are healing..
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Time is the only thing. Cliche but true. You can't drown out sadness and loss, it's a mourning process. Allow yourself to be hurt and be angry and sad and all the rest of the unpleasant emotions, because they are real. As far as getting through upheavals, I always remembered (almost as a mantra) that the sun will rise tomorrow. (from the movie Castaway w/ Tom Hanks, probably the best movie I can think of that deals with loss)
Yes JC. Try socializing more with your friends, and come back to Second Life. Time heals all wounds, but not if you are going to sit around and mope. There are others for you to meet. And you have a ton of friends waiting for you in Second Life who miss you. Come back and you will feel better, I guarantee it.
only interesting people have scars - the non-scars are dull people and are very plain - people who have scars have a story to tell - no scars means dull and boring and might as well sit in front of TV all day and eat potato chips
its 1.30am so my thought pattern is random. My ways of dealing with heart break are, firstly, staying busy. Being around people who like me for me and make me feel ok about myself. Flirting, ALOT. And always trying to remember and tell myself that everything that happens to us, the painful stuff especially, is forcing us to learn, grow, become stronger, become more compassionate, understand what it means to be human. I read recently that everything we are doing today is preparing us for something else. Heartbreak teaches us to love deeper, I think. Well Leigh quoted from Castaway there, and I remember another quote from that movie. He says, just keep breathing in and out, becuz you never kno wat the tide will bring in. Heartbreak is like any other 'injury' so be patient with yourself, every ending is a new beginning, it just doesnt feel like it at the time.
/end random. *insert hug here*
Been taking some of these ideas to heart.. Like Spanki's suggestion to flirt like crazy. Facebook/LPSG/Dudesnude/Gaywatch/OKCupid/etc are burning up with my best.. haven't been called "hot" so much in years.. it's good to know I still got it.
Haven't yet really worked through the negative emotions.. though did have a talk that helped me recognize that I had them. (Somehow I forget I'm human and maybe I'm not as able to take things in stride as I think.)
I'm assuming time.. and other social interactions.. will help me a lot.
I'll have to check out Castaway. That's a movie I've only caught in passing on TV.. Never watched more than a few minutes of it.
Second Life I've been debating about visiting again.. I think until I have a better handle on what I want to get from it I should keep the socializing to RL.. and maybe facebook and other online flirtation that might lead to face-to-face interactions.
I'm with you Rammy.. interesting lives have all kinds of experiences in them.. and some of those experiences hurt. It's inevitable.
Thanks for the thoughts guys (and the hug)
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